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Alistair and his partner had lived together for almost ten years before they entered into a civil partnership. The civil partnership was dissolved after four years. He and his partner didn’t have children.
Belinda and her husband had been married for almost twenty years when he left. She had just turned fifty and thought her life was over. Belinda and her husband used the collaborative process to settle the terms of their divorce.
Catherine and her husband had been married for many years and had two adult children at the time of their divorce. She had not worked during the marriage and her husband left her in a financially precarious position.
Denise and her husband divorced after six years of marriage. They had no children and Denise had continued to work during the marriage.
Erica and her husband divorced after three years of marriage. They had no children and Erica had worked throughout the relationship. They used the collaborative process for their divorce.
Frances’s husband had built the family’s fortune through his success in the financial markets. However the stress of this lifestyle created a fraught relationship and eventually, after fifteen years of marriage, Frances thought there was no alternative but to separate, anticipating their twelve-year-old son sharing his time between their homes. They used the collaborative process to reach their divorce settlement.
Georgia and her husband had one young child and had had a relatively short marriage at the time of their divorce. Georgia was the main breadwinner in the family.
Harry and his wife had been married for almost thirty five years at the time of their divorce. They had two adult children and had spent quite some time separated before finalising their divorce.
Ian and his wife had been married for many years and had adult children at the time of their divorce. They tried unsuccessfully to use the collaborative approach to settle the issues between them.
James and his wife had been married for seven years when they decided to divorce. They didn’t have children.
Jennifer had been in a civil partnership for over six years at the time the relationship came to an end. She and her partner did not have children and Jennifer had worked throughout the relationship.
Kate and her husband had been married for over twenty years at the time of their divorce. They had three young children and Kate was a working mum.
Louis and his wife were married in Italy in the late 1970s and lived around the world supporting Louis’s career in the oil industry. Their only child had recently started her second year at university at the time of their separation. They used arbitration at the suggestion of their mediator to resolve the complexities of their finances, seeing their case conclude in six months.
Michael and his wife were both retired at the time of their divorce. They had been married for over thirty years and had three adult children.
Peter, an ambulance driver, and his wife, a nurse, married after having known each other for a year. They had two boys close in age. Their marriage lasted for almost twenty years and by the time they divorced the boys were in their mid teens.
Quentin and his wife had met at university. They had three teenage children at the time of their divorce and had been married for over twenty years.
Richard and his wife had two sons, one was quite young and one was a teenager, at the time of their divorce. He and his wife had been married for over twenty years. Richard was keen to explore saving the marriage but his wife wanted to move forward to a divorce. His fractured relationship with his boys has since been restored.
Rob and his wife had been together for almost twenty years by the time they divorced. They had both worked throughout the marriage and they had one young child. They negotiated an out of court settlement.
Sarah and her husband had been together for 30 years and had been married for over 20 years when Sarah began divorce proceedings. They had one child who was taken ill during the course of the divorce.
Steve had hoped to avoid the separation pursued by his wife after twenty eight years of marriage that had produced four children and a sizeable business empire. Steve had considered a traditional litigated route but adopted a collaborative approach involving a trusted joint accountant to help him and his wife assess the different options.
Tom and his wife had one young child and divorced after five years of marriage. They reached an out of court divorce settlement.
Uma and her husband met at work. Married for two years, Uma realised that the relationship would not be life-long and involved lawyers to process the divorce and end the financial claims. Her husband avoided involvement, hoping for a change of mind. They had no joint assets, children or mortgages.
Vivienne and her husband had been married for almost thirty years and had two adult children at the time of their divorce. Vivienne’s husband had a high profile job and she also worked during the marriage. They had tried couple counselling in the past. They used the collaborative process to agree the terms of their divorce settlement.
Wendy had met her husband at university. Eventually ceasing work, she had been increasingly isolated in a large suburban home, raising the four children as her husband pursued a successful city career and then formed a relationship with a much younger work colleague.
Xanthe and Eric separated in their mid 40s after fifteen years of marriage. The marriage had seen careful management of professional earnings, resulting in substantial funds in off-shore trusts. Their three teenage children were in private school.
Yvonne married her husband when she was in her mid-20s and they separated after twenty four years of marriage with three children either at or just emerging from university. Each had a demanding career in medicine but there was uncertainty as to future earnings.
Zoe and her husband had three young children at the time of their divorce. They had both worked during their fifteen year marriage.